If the Penis Could Speak What Men Want Women to Know

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If the Penis Could Speak What Men Want Women to Know Photo by John Dugan

For many people, expressing their sexual wants and needs is a difficult thing to do. Asking a partner to perform a specific sexual act may make them feel dirty or even embarrassed. What’s even worse is that sometimes people fail to communicate the things that they don’t like - or even things that are painful - because they are concerned about hurting their lover’s feelings. However, if both partners can learn to have open, honest communication during their sessions between the sheets, it will be a more enjoyable time for both parties. Here are some communication tips to break the ice as well as how to keep the penis healthy and performing at its peak capacity.

1. Nobody is a mind reader:

It is important to keep in mind that no partner - whether it’s the 1st time or the 100th time - is a mind reader. A man may be thinking to himself, "How could she possibly think that feels good" and give a subtle movement to readjust so she gets the clue, but perhaps that subtle movement is misinterpreted as pleasure, so that she just does more of the undesirable action. Not talking is only going to cause frustration that a partner is doing too much - or to little - of something; on the other hand, a gently stated, "Not so rough, please" can easily clear up the problem.

2. Be careful on the delivery:

If a guy snaps at his partner during sex, saying, "Ouch, don’t do that, do this!" It may just hurt the feelings of a well-intentioned lover. The same message can be relayed in a more gentle way by simply saying, "I really love being touched here, instead." Follow up with a little positive reinforcement (e.g., moaning) and the partner is sure to see the move as a winner and ditch the old technique.

3. Give a compliment:

Complimenting a partner about things that are going well means they are likely to give more of the same. If there is a killer position that a man just can’t get enough of, he needs to tell his partner, as she is likely going to be willing to repeat something that is getting positive results. When it comes to sex - and especially trying out new material - anybody can get nervous, but positive feedback increases confidence and willingness to try new things.

4. Ask how it feels:

Sometimes one partner is more forthcoming with information than the other. If a guy gets nothing but an occasional nod from his partner, he is unlikely to know if he is meeting her standards. Occasionally asking, "How does that feel?" or "Is this okay?" opens up the dialogue for her to say yes or no. Her verbal contribution may go no further, but at least a yes or no can let a guy know if he’s on the right track or not!

5. Show, don’t tell:

If it still feels awkward to actually speak during sex, use body language do the talking instead. If there is an awkward position, gently guide her into a better one. If something feels great, be enthusiastic in body movement so she can tell the move was a good one. A well-timed moan, for instance, can actually add to the sensuality of the moment!

Keep the penis healthy

Of course, one of the biggest keys to a good sex life is keeping the penis healthy. Winter air can leave the penis skin dry, flaky and rather unappealing for anybody who is getting up close and personal. Combat dry skin with a penis health formula (health professionals recommend Man 1 Man Oil) that contains vitamin E and Shea butter to really moisturize and keep the skin healthy.

Author's Profile

Visit www.man1health.com for more information about treating common penis health problems, including soreness, redness and loss of penis sensation. John Dugan is a professional writer who specializes in men's health issues and is an ongoing contributing writer to numerous online web sites.

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